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STOP PEOPLEING!

STOP PEOPLE-ING! 

 
We all at times, or may be everytime try to make others feel good, nice, comfortable and happy by doing things that they want. We lend money, tell lies, hang out, party, eat, drink, speak and do almost everything thinking for others and not ourselves. And there comes a time where we no longer feel like doing anything, but we end up doing it. The reason? Not being able to say 'No'.

 Are you also someone who always tries to make others happy? Forgetting and ignoring your own happiness? If yes, then continue reading! 

First you need to understand it's okay to say 'No'. Its okay to first think about yourself. Stop doing things for others and making others feel good when u don't feel good doing for them. 

Stop pleasing people all the time. You should know when to say No. 
Don't be confused whether to leave a conversation, friend, or an argument. Your mental health comes first. You are no one's responsibility . Do it for you, not for them. Your priority is you. Your happiness is all that matters. Their happiness isn't yours and can't be. Stop believing in the saying 'I am happy in your happiness'. First you have to be happy then only you can make others happy. If you do something from your heart , then it will obviously give you immense happiness and contentment. For example,if you help the poor people, or do some sort of social work. But if you do something just for the sake of pleasing people,or make a good impression then you need to stop!

Take for example, If you and your friend are sitting for exam and both of you want to score good marks but your friend doesn't want to study. Would you study for your friend also? 
No right. Why? 

Because you studied for yourself and not for your friend. It's none of your business whether your friend writes in exam or not. Remove this unnecessary baggage out of your head thinking that I have to help my friend.

If you help those people who can't do anything ,who don't have any means of earning, then God will help you immensely. 

But if you are helping someone who has every means of source, financial stability, cognitive ability, who can differentiate between right and wrong then you need to stop.

If you don't feel like going out with your friends, eating or drinking something, lending money etc then just don't do it. 

 Remember nobody is your responsibility and everyone is charge of their own life, so stop peopleing. If you fear that you will be losing people if you don't help them then let them go because you don't have to feel burdened when you are doing something for people .

 When you help somebody then you should be feeling very ecstatic and joyful thinking you did something right. But if you don't get a slight feeling of contentment after you help someone then better don't help. Because later on, you yourself will be feeling awful, pressurised, burdened and unintentionally you will be bound to help people.
So, say Yes when u feel it's worth it. But learn to say No when u know it. 


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